The Light Bringer To The World 
Young woman receiving a back massage in a spa center. Female patient is receiving treatment by professional therapist.
Massage or sex, gentlemen? Most ads for massage are ads for sex even in sections of websites where only ads for massage should be these days. And this fact makes the work of real independent therapists harder. Many men think that artificial sex with strangers is more satisfying than well done massage because those men don’t know – and thus cannot appreciate – the importance and benefits of real massage. Social conditioning and the impact of the euphemism for sex that the word massage now is play a big part. So, dear male readers, here are the wonderful benefits and natural intimacy of the beautiful art of massage.
So massage or sex? Well…
Massage is among the most powerful forms of physical contact in the context of intimacy and therapy. If one combines it with essential oils, he creates the most important application in aromatherapy. The combination allies the therapeutic power of touch with the properties of the essential oils chosen for a particular person for treating a particular condition at a specific time.
Massage with or without essential oils formalizes a very primitive instinct. When a child falls, his mother will rub his bumped knee. If we trip over and bruise ourselves, our instinctive first reaction will be to rub the painful area. Or if we find a friend in distress, we’ll offer a reassuring hug. All these are forms of healing. Rubbing a painful part of the body encourages a stronger flow of blood in the tiny capillaries below the surface of the skin. This eases the pain. A hug communicates sympathy and love that we may not be able to put into words.
Both kinds of healing are in massage or sex
The masseuse performs a variety of strokes to relieve pain, ease tight muscles, increase circulation, release toxins, or benefit the physical body in other ways. She massages the muscles visible below the surface of the skin. And their effects also benefit the deeper layers of muscle and the underlying organs. Some forms of massage are to benefit only the physical body. But a general feeling of wellbeing will result and enhance the degree of relaxation after a treatment. New energy and vigour will follow this deep relaxation. The benefit is cumulative. The recipient will almost always feel good for several hours after a treatment. And regular massages will prolong the feeling of wellbeing for increasing periods after every treatment.
Massage or sex? Massage has several profound benefits
It can release tight muscles and reeducate them due to making us aware of unnecessarily tensing certain muscles. It also teaches us to feel the difference between a tight or contracted and relaxed muscle. We often do not realize that we tighten certain muscles until we feel those muscles relaxed during and after a treatment. It is perfectly normal to tense muscles when we feel mentally tense.
But it is important to be able to let go of this tension before the tight muscles bring discomfort and unease to the mind and set up a vicious circle of tension. This is one way in which mental stress leads to physical disease. Massage can break this circle, especially when we work with essential oils that have a calming, soothing, or uplifting effect on the mind and body.
Massage or sex? Why massage for a change?
Some systems of massage, such as the eastern massages and various intuitive massages developed in the past 50 years take the link between body and mind further. Hence they work mainly on the connection between the mental and physical states of the recipient. Letting go of physical tensions often leads to a release of emotions. This can relate to the person’s present situation or to something that has been stored in the body for a long time.
The masseuse and the recipient must build a relationship of deep trust and sympathy before such catharsis can take place. And this building happens over several treatments. One of the ideas inherent in eastern massages is that by gently working on the physical surface tensions deeper tensions will come to the surface and eventually be released.
The variety of techniques is enormous. I believe that the technique used doesn’t matter as much as the masseuse’s caring and nurturing attitude to the recipient. And the recipient’s trust in the masseuse.
Massage is vital to aromatherapy
because it provides the most effective way of applying essential oils to the body. The skin absorbs the oils. When we massage the whole body, a useful amount of essential oil goes into the bloodstream in a short time. The essential oils are diluted in carrier oils. If it isn’t possible to massage the whole body, massaging the back offers the best possibility of getting sufficient essential oil into the body for a therapeutic effect. This is because the back is the single largest expanse of skin on the body.
Is massage or sex with strangers better for a man?
because to have sex with a stranger in completely artificial conditions is not natural. That’s why many men can’t marry paying for sex with feeling it and end up feeling empty after it. No one in real life would pull a woman [who doesn’t sell sex] off the street and throw her into the bedroom to have sex on demand.
Even people on dating sites and apps who have sex on the first date correspond before they meet. So since sex with a woman who sells it is unnatural in artificial conditions, it’s forced. A massage by a therapist whom you don’t know is far more natural because it’s perfectly socially accepted and doesn’t involve sexual intimacy and embarrassment. It’s not in one’s face. This is why massage, if done well, is far more rewarding than artificial sex.
If I asked a man deprived of sex whether he would go for massage or sex, of course he would say sex. Well, may this article inspire you to think twice next time.
When deciding whether to pay for massage or sex,
think of this article. The benefits of massage go even further. I’ve described the four less obvious ones in an article on my official website. And if you decide for a massage rather than sex, this article tells you about the most traditional tried tested types of massage in which I am qualified. Would you like to talk about any of them?
